Hey lovelies! Over the last few months I have been sharing some of my thoughts in my newsletter (aka love letter) and while that is fun I think some of these things belong right here on the blog so welcome to my 5th Love letter!
Ya know…It stinks to be to hear the truth about yourself, especially when it is life that is having to tell you those truths. Let me explain…in the last couple of weeks, I decided to by a house. This decision totally came from out of the blue and while I am definitely not a spontaneous person (I was leaning toward buying a house…this fall). After my advisors told me I was ready now. I started the ball started rolling down that hill. When you buy a house things start getting…well busy, and complicated. I have the tendency to let life roll right over me and THIS TIME I wanted to do things a bit differently. I decided to be present and make changes wherever I could. I’m totally ok with calling myself out, it may start some conversations that can help someone else. So I guess this is the call Danie out love letter! I guess I am spilling the tea on myself…Lord here we go…
I have a phone issue…Have you ever looked at your day and said you were busy all day, but then you look at social media and you were scrolling a good 50-70% of your day? Did you get what you needed done? Well, say hello to the bad guy (Jay-Z quote) I stinking do that and I don’t know why it took me so long to notice! Maybe it was all my scrolling! Being the kinda girl I am I did some research…There are lots of reasons that we look at our phones (seeking dopamine, seeking disturbance or distraction, general procrastination, etc) but biggest shocker for me was research that says on average we spend more than 5 hours a day scrolling and texting each day. Does Googling how to spell words which I think is essential to work count?..ok see now I am getting off the point. Point is I am spending waaay to much time on my phone which keeps me from really getting to my goals. Sending paperwork, filing taxes, all the adulting we have to do. This is a personal issue. I cannot blame anyone. I control this phone and I need to control me. This has led me to alter my social media approach for now…limiting the IG for my blog to 2 times a day (Posting at night and replying to comments the next day) and I downloaded an app (Moment available on IOS) to find out exactly how much time am I spending on social media and to ground my digital self as I have sooo much to do other than scroll! 1st days results: 2 hours and 54 min! And I picked up the phone 31 times!!! This is a lot of time and I was conscientious of not using the phone in the morning! Am I on this phone 5 hours a day scrolling thru posts!?
For transparency’s sake I am going to share how these things are going as time passes. I am considering this a part of my 2018 goals, that I talked about so much in other posts and hopefully, you guys can help keep me accountable.
The 2nd habit that I have that I am actually making progress on is going to bed. I am a serial night owl. I will lollygag all up and down this house, scroll thru IG get very little done, go to bed super tired and frustrated and start the next day repeating the same pattern. So I am having to discipline myself. Get ready for bed at 11:30 and limit the sosh meeds as it is jacking my life up! 2 hours and 54 minutes of it! So by 12:30 your girl is ready for a good nights sleep which helps me be ready for life the next day and now that I am in scrolling jail I am about to have so much more room for activities!
Hopefully, one of those activities will be being present and improving my planning for the future. Sometimes I can only see now. I will push things to the limit without thinking of the potential of the unknown. So that’s something I gotta work on. Houses need repair and maintenance and no landlord will be coming to do it. I am the landlord baby! So I have been confronted with consequences with some of the impromptu choices I am making. Some are good, some are troubling. Its ok to see yourself as you are flaws and all and then make changes to improve. That is awesome and the epitome of adulting baby. So while I called myself out. I am proud of me. This is growth as my mom would say. So yay!
Have you ever had to come to grips with a quality that you needed to change? Have any pointers for me? Share them in the comments.