What kind of blogger do I want to be?

What kind of blogger do I want to be?

Something that I have noticed since I started blogging is that focus on blogging content does not seem to be a top priority. It is not the primary focus when I attend blogger events, it’s vague or not mentioned when I get emails, DMs, or likes from various IG “training” companies. And what I mean by that is, most emphasis is put on increasing followers, subscribers, or being IG famous. “How can I gain 200 followers a month” “How to win at the follow/unfollow method” “How to win at IG like I did” by some random lady offering a master class for a fee of $175 per person. There is rarely if ever a question about your purpose in blogging or the type of content you want to create or are creating. This is even reflected in “blogger resources”. I reached out to a popular blogger collective wanting to connect with more bloggers in my area and one of the main lines on the page for you to join asked if I wanted to be the next IG “It girl”. This made me pause because there is probably nothing I want less. I don’t really want to partner with bloggers who make this their main priority. “It girls” are here for a season or 2. I am in this for the long haul; so this made me think…

Why are people blogging? Is it because they want to share their point of view with others or is it to be insta-famous? Don’t get me wrong… of course, I want people to see my blog and follow me on social media, but does this mean I am willing to do anything to get it? What is the allure of being insta-famous these days? Has it occurred to people that the insta-famous are already at that status and due to Facebook changing IG rules for feeds the likelihood of you being able to be the next 2 million legit follower account has become harder than ever? So instead of trying to be someone else or the ideal of someone else, why wouldn’t I choose to be myself? Why have an account with 100k followers if you can’t even get 50 likes on your post. This to me is the worst thing about wanting something without really earning it. The bloggers I love have been doing this for a few years now. They have worked and built audiences and have devoted followers. While I may not buy everything they suggest or involve myself in each new venture they start, they have developed a blog that shows who they are. This means something to me.

When I first started blogging (like within weeks) I had a stranger come into my DMs on IG and tell me to delete a recent post (a magazine cover) and to tell me I should only post photos from a personal photo shoot if I wanted to be successful. While I’m sure she meant no harm, I LOVED the cover and wanted to share it with my followers, so I did. Who gets to make these rules of what I must post? Is there a shortage of lifestyle bloggers with photos of themselves looking at their MacBooks, or smiling into the distance, or holding their Starbucks cups in the air? I sincerely doubt it. You know what I don’t see? A lot of bloggers being themselves.

I started This Curvy Life to write about the things I love, traveling and style and my life. I don’t want this blog to reflect things that are not true to me. I want to share experiences that excite me and might be of interest to others. As time goes on and I gain more followers I hope they see the same me in posts that get thousands of views as they do in these posts now that get 30. I will keep this post as a reminder for myself because being me was the entire point and that is more important to me than all the #sponsored posts in the world.

xo Danie


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  1. Sharon
    July 21, 2017 / 2:40 pm

    This resonates loud and clear!

    I wonder if it’s the community you’re trying to tap into? We should exchange notes 😉 The ones I’ve popped my nose into we’re all about content, so that’s super disheartening to hear.

    • Danie
      July 24, 2017 / 6:02 pm

      I think you are right. I was looking into more of a fashion collective. I think I need to look into more of a travel collective. Just haven’t found it yet. I look forward to talking with you 🙂

  2. September 13, 2017 / 10:58 pm

    This totally spoke to me.

    I’ve only been blogging for a few months now but I feel that when turning to established blog references the top topics are all about monitizing your blog, selling products and FB ads.

    It’s actually disheartened me and has been stressing me out this past month because I feel that I’ve been forced to niche down and instead of writing for pleasure almost feel bullied into starting a sales funnel at the risk of not being a “real blogger/entrepreneur”.

    Glad to know I’m not alone.

    • Danie
      September 13, 2017 / 11:08 pm

      You are in no way alone. I think that we have to stick to what makes us want to do this instead of going toward the trend of how people are doing it. You have to do this because you want to and you have something to say. How to monetize is important but you will draw that with your enthusiasm for your blog in your voice. Not the voice of the trend. I hope you keep going in the direction that you see fit. xo Danie

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